The Value of Implants

 I am a straight 24-year-old single guy.  I have a friend in my college; she is young, thin, and beautiful …and smart, a real catch.  One afternoon I am getting to know her, we are socializing in a bar among some friends after a study session.  In conversation, she says when she gets the money she is going to get breast implants.  Keep in mind I am not her father or family, just a guy with wandering eyes.  I can say I have met underwear models and most cannot hold a match to her.  [Hot!]  I ask her "why do you need implants, you look great."  Her answer was a combination of "society standards" of beauty and being able to produce what guys are looking for.  I was not satisfied.  Bewildered, I went home and did some thinking.  I thought about what made this very smart girl think some of these things about her body.  Why was this physical characteristic so dominating in her and others mind.

            We are all aware of the social implications and pressures society puts on us (especially women) to be exceedingly beautiful.  Starving models, actresses with an entourage of hair and makeup crew and TV personalities with personal trainers litter today's media.  Plastic surgeons are calling small breasts a "treatable condition".  Beauty has become more important than intelligence or personality.  I am sure that as you read this, examples come to mind so I don't have to provide any.  We purchase the magazines, watch the runway shows and buy into to this world that we apparently think we live in, the fashion and superstar world.  Today if you can't fill a coconut-bra and hula-hoop with a bracelet, you're not really worth looking at.  At least, so says society.
            Is that really true?  Are small breast a treatable condition?  Society might be a breeding ground for widely accepted fallacies and a constant degradation of ethics but is it to blame for our impossible standards of appearance for women?  When my friend said, "What society deems as beautiful", I knew exactly what she was talking about.  Is that really what she meant though?  You can't blame society with out blaming yourself.  I know I am not about ready to accept any part of it, as I am sure most of you don't find yourselves guilty.  Who is guilty?  Is the fashion industry at fault?  The fashion industry is a slave, a community of businesses that provide for their customers.  Society fuels the clothes designers, and the fashion industry.  Can we blame Hollywood with their dangerously thin actress and slutty pop singers?  People buy the albums and watch the movies so you say, "see Steven, it is society."  Are we that bad?  Do we ever grow up: or do we just trade our parents for TV and the Hollywood buzz? Remember when your parents said.  "If Billie jumped off a bridge, would you?".  Our parents wanted us to think for ourselves, and here we our blaming the world for the way we think.  That is just ridiculous to me.  I am not going to give credit to society when I think of cure for cancer or compose a perfect masterpiece.  Therefore, I can't logically blame it when I don't think and say something pathetic like "society made me this way". When truthfully I just turned off my brain and stepped in line. 

            I never said you girls had to look and dress a certain way.  Who did, Lindsey Lohan?  Then who told her?  I seriously doubt she ever invented a single independent thought in her whole life.  Do you see the circle?  Seems to me the same people buying into the glamour and fashion hype are the same people perpetuating the madness.  It's my friend's fault, her fault for buying into the hogwash.  The only explanation that makes any sense is she in a race with every other pretty girl trying to be prettier than the next. 

            For many people this is an obsession; for those people, do your self a favor, jump out of line and think about who you are.  It makes me sad, that someone as smart as my friend values someone else's body more than her own mind.  It's wrong to spend all your life trying to meet what is incorrectly stated as "standards".  How did all of this happen?  Is this behavior fueled by evolutionary psychological factors (trying to attract a mate)?  Wouldn't people rather filter out those that just fall in line and do what everyone else expects them to do or think?  Is something beautiful just because everyone else believes it to be?  I imagine people want an intelligent mate.

            I know I am just one dude among millions of mindless buffoons but from a guy's perspective, the whole thing seems out of control to me. If your interest in a woman is measured by her bra size then you're just shallow.  Many women out there can't buy personality or a brain.  In this world, tits come cheap.  Sure, I never said I don't like boobies.  I wouldn't deserve my penis if I did.  Nevertheless, stacked against everything else they just don't pay the bills.  What is a good plate with nothing on it? 

            To me, people devoting their life to looking like super-models (something they will never do) is defiantly an issue.  Worlds where people accept a life were they adopt an image as a personality, is a bigger concern.  Since reading this, have you stopped to ask yourself why the fashion nuts are this way.  Have you asked yourself if you are nut?  An important question to ask ourselves, "Are we teaching our children to leap off bridges, the one we wouldn't follow Billie off of".

Besides, I will take shape over size any day.